Tuesday, December 11, 2007

i forgive

This was a book i noticed when i was book shopping early this year. Months later,my sister in law reccomended the book to me, and seeing that i didnt have the paperback, it was given to me as a birthday present. I did not rush to read the first few pages. Something held me back. A few days later i picked up the book and started to read. I lost concentration during the first 5 minutes. I put it back and it lay on my table, on my bed, in my bag. Just about everywhere but in my hands.

Recently, after a conversation with her, she asked me " so have you finished reading the book? " ashamed and embarrased i said, "no". " why not? its so sad, i finished it in 2 days!! "

there was a prick in my heart. was it the fact that i had not been reading the book in the past 3 months or was it because she said it was sad?

i went back home, rushed for the book and started reading.

the kite runner is very descriptive in terms of story telling in a very honest kind of way. brutal honesty i would say. i can be a very impatient reader, which is why i lost my concentration , i gave up on the story... why? too descriptive? or perhaps at that particular time, i did not want to face with reality. reality meaning that sometimes not all things can be all that happy.

i will not tell u the story of the kite runner because u can google it anywhere and read it elsewhere. what i will tell u is what i learned from reading the kite runner. i learn how people sacrifice their lives for the ones they love. I learn how it feels to not have a choice. i see how horrible things are on the other side of the world, where buildings turn to dust and people die on streets. housseini brilliantly tells this story in a way i have never imagined it to be. crying to its very last word, i realize how important it is to forgive. something i learned how to a long time ago, but have forgetten how important it can be.

the word forgiveness seems really big. to forgive and forget, to forget but never forgive, or to forgive but never forget. we must have pondered upon these words at least once in our lives. and to some people , more than once.

people make mistakes, we makes mistakes. sometimes we hurt people, sometimes we get hurt. how often does this process get in the way of us moving forward in our lives.

we sometimes say these phrases out loud..

" i cannot forget what you/he/she/they did to me "

" i will never forgive you/him/her/them "

unless we've had permanent brain damage, or perhaps a serious case of amnesia, it is usually hard to forget...

but in our most strong yet fragile heart of ours, we can find it in our soul to forgive,

the ones who might have hurt us in any way, for it allows the anger to rest in peace so we can move on to a brighter day

sometimes in our hearts, when we lay ourselves to sleep at night we say to ourselves

" will he/she/they forgive me for that i have done? "

but did we ever question this?

" i cannot forgive myself for what i have done ", or " can i forgive myself for what i have done? "

it is when we have a question like this, that we sometimes lie sleepless at night, or that we try so hard in life, to make things right , we push ourselves to the limit, either blaming ourselves or proving it the world that we are okay yet we are never really okay.

it may not be the easiest thing to do, but i've learned, forgiving in its own, is the most humane thing a soul can do, to one's own self, and to another.


The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong -Mahatma Gandhi


8 Comments:

Blogger Eva Natasha said...

Nicely written Julia...

"Forgive, you will have happiness.
Forget, you will have satisfacton.
Forgive and forget,
You will have everlasting peace
Within and without"

~Sri Chinmoy~

http://evanatasha00.blogspot.com/2005/09/forgiving-is-not-forgetting-its.html

11:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

For us to give, it's best to forgive. For us to get, it's best to forget.

J.T. Edwards

10:17 PM  
Blogger Antares said...

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3:18 AM  
Blogger *cosmic freak* said...

after much persuasion by a friend whom I literally psychoed to read in the first place, I got my copy of the kite runner.

towards the very last words, mixed emotions blocked all my tears.

but I can never imagine how the movie will do the book justice, for words and how the story being told have affected the readers deeply.

the only book I cried reading was God of Small Things and Nick Traina, life story of Danielle Steel's son.

I highly recommend The Kite Runner to anyone within a heartbeat.

forgiveness is for the strong one. wisely put by mr. ghandi.

but to truly forgive. to elliminate other thoughts and feelings. to be sincere in your forgiveness. only take someone who have overcome hurt and pain to do such things. becos the heart is like a muscle. when you constantly stretch, hurt to flex it, it will then become very flexible and will never hurt again. then, forgiveness is something you give like endless oxygen god gave us for breathing.

not many people can come to that point. because its only human to regret and be angry and feel unsatisfied.

9:58 PM  
Blogger Shahriman Latif said...

If you enjoyed the Kite Runner, you'll love A Thousand Splendid Suns. It's Khalid Hosseini's second novel after Kite Runner.

10:15 AM  
Blogger muteaudio said...

And last nite I saw the film....

4:57 PM  
Blogger iNGENiOUS AYU said...

u just elaborate my whole life in just one post. T_T

4:38 PM  
Blogger Gjie said...

dear..watchg The kite runner movie is better than juz readg the novels..

10:57 AM  

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